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Atherton Drenth

1 August 2017

Have you ever found yourself in an impossible situation? Nothing you say or do makes it right again and you find yourself watching the whole affair dissolve into an impossible quagmire of angry tears and despair. Sometimes life goes sideways. We don’t always know or understand what we did or said to create the situation but there you are in the middle of it, wondering, what on earth happened?

Relationships can go toxic at the drop of a hat. You said or did something that causes the other person to jump to a conclusion that is so far out in left field you wonder if you were in the same room at the time of the discussion.

I experienced this when my mother developed a brain tumour. Her change in behaviour was subtle at first. It caught me completely off guard. She was one person with me when we were alone and a completely different person if someone else walked into the room. Her personality would change in an instant. I tried to talk to her about it but she thought I was just being ridiculous and making it all up. My sister began to wonder if her behaviour was a sign of mental illness.

impossible situations atherton drenthOn my sister’s advice, I took mother to the doctor. He informed me that it was probably my fault that her behaviour had become so erratic. It was recommended that I was the one who needed medication. That was in the early stages of her illness. Sadly, I realized the truth of the matter. If the other person can’t see it then you must have made it up, right?

It was a bleak, dark time that had me wondering about my own sanity. I was losing my mother and seeing a side of her I never knew existed. I was alone and felt completely powerless.

After my mother was finally diagnosed, it was too late. The tumour was too far advanced and nothing could be done. She died six months later. If doctors had listened in the beginning maybe she would have survived. We will never know for sure. All I know is that I lost my mother, my best friend and confidant. Her death left me angry and deeply wounded. There was no space to grieve. I started to take my anger out on the people I loved.

My mother would have called that “leaking” my emotional turmoil out into my life. We leak when we don’t know to how to cope. Some people drink, others drug themselves to dull the pain. I wanted to be free to process the grief in a healthy and natural way. I needed to find a way to reverse all of this. I was very aware of how it was infecting every aspect of my life and it had to stop.

Everyone, including me, responded in the only way they knew how at the time. I understood I couldn’t change the past but that didn’t mean that I couldn’t find a way to let it go and move on. The hardest part of this entire journey was accepting that what was done was done. Life get’s messy. And I wondered – if prayer could clear polluted water[1], what could prayer do to clear toxic energy that had been created around relationships?

I asked for divine guidance and was taught how to do what I now call, “Energetic Do-overs.” This simple procedure has proven, over the years, to clear toxic energy and open the door to healing at a higher level of vibration. It is done privately. The other person involved need not be informed or included. It is a tool that you can use to help you on your healing journey. It will help you to transform all the fear and negative energy that has been created between you and the other person into love and light for the good of all.

Energetic Do-overs Technique

This technique takes about 10 to 15 minutes. Have your journal and some pens ready to write down any thoughts or feelings you may have afterwards.

  1. Go into your Vertical Axis
  2. Imagine or pretend that you are standing in a sacred place. It can be a church, a field, a room or a place in heaven.
  3. Call in Archangel Michael (or divine energy of your choice) and see him standing before you.
  4. Call in the energy of the person you wish to create healing with.
  5. Turn to Archangel Michael and say:

“I ask that anything that I may have said, done or thought about this person (state their name), that has been harmful, altered or blocked their life path in any way, be transformed into love and light for the good of all. I ask that all conflict between us be healed with love, in all directions and all dimensions of time. Amen”

Then imagine you are looking into that person’s eyes and say:

“I love you. I am sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.[2]

Then see yourself embracing that person, release them, step back and see them being escorted by Archangel Michael back to their life. Stand in your place of love and gratitude for what they have taught you. See yourself coming back into awareness of where you are at this moment in time.

Energetic do-overs may not heal every toxic situation you may find yourself in, nor will they necessarily create any miracles overnight. But it will release the negative vibration that toxic relationships can carry. Love is far more positive and healing than fear can ever be. Healing an impossible situation can sometimes be this simple.

Atherton Drenth is the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy, and Following Body Wisdom. Atherton also appears in the documentary, Voyage to Betterment” as one of 12 experts along with other internationally renowned physicians, researchers, and pioneers in the fields of consciousness research and spirituality. Atherton is a Clairvoyant, Medical Intuitive, Holistic Energy Practitioner facilitating transformational healing for her clients. She has an international client base and has been in private practice for over sixteen years.


[1] From The Intuitive Dance by Atherton Drenth. © 2016 by Atherton Drenth. Used by permission from Llewellyn Worldwide, Ltd. www.llewellyn.com

[2] Variation of the Ho’oponopona an ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness.