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Atherton Drenth

13 Feb 2024

heart in the clouds

Do you allow yourself to be loved?

It’s an interesting question, don’t you think?

Personally, I think it is easier to love than it is to BE LOVED. Allow me to explain.

Ask yourself this: when someone pays you a compliment, how do you respond?

Pause here for a moment and think about it.

Most of my clients, when asked this question respond with statements such as:

  • it was nothing
  • don’t think anything of it
  • it wasn’t anything special

This list could go on, but the point is most people when they are given a compliment brush it off, downplay it or feel embarrassed. They don’t know how to receive it with love and grace. It is too uncomfortable.

Now ask yourself why you feel uncomfortable receiving a compliment?

I have found in my work with clients over the years that their reactionary denial of being complimented is pretty consistent. As one client phrased it quite eloquently, she said she was raised to believe that to receive a compliment was to be vain and self-serving.

The Angels would beg to differ.

The angels have always responded to this question about how to receive a compliment with such beautiful simplicity. They say that when someone pays you a compliment, look them in the eyes and say, Thank you. They ask you to be aware that by receiving the compliment you are receiving love. When you receive love from another you are helping them to love.

Remember: God is only Love. This means that we need to be open to giving love AND receiving love. It is the yin/yang of life. The give and take. The nurturing of love of others and ourselves.

There is so much information being written about the importance of self-love, self-care, honouring one’s path. This is so important, but I also believe that there is a piece that is being missed here. It is one thing to acknowledge how to love one’s self but it is another to acknowledge how to receive it as well. We need to understand the importance of nurturing of oneself but also to understand the importance of how to receive that love.

When we truly receive love as it is offered, we are living a more love balanced life. Giving and receiving – as the Angels teach us.

The next time someone pays you a compliment receive it with love and grace and say thank you. You will both benefit from the expression of love freely given and received.

To help you explore how to learn how to receive love I have put together a little workbook called: “Nurturing Your Soul: A Self-care Workbook On Receiving Love.”

Feel free to pass it along to your friends.


Contact Atherton Drenth

Atherton Drenth is the author of Intuitive Dance. Building, Protecting & Clearing Your Energy (Llewellyn Worldwide), Following Body Wisdom and the Art of Intuitive Journaling. Atherton is a Clairvoyant, Medical Intuitive and Holistic Energy Practitioner facilitating transformational healing for her clients. She has been extensively trained and certified as a Medical Intuitive and Holistic Energy Practitioner. She has been in private practice since 2000. She is also a compassionate teacher committed to helping others develop their full intuitive potential through yearly workshops. She has a private practice in Ottawa, Ontario.